How to Handle Constructive Criticism
I can clearly remember the first time I was called into the principal’s office, not as a student, but as a teacher.
Okay, I’d probably been there many times before that for various reasons, but this was the first time the conversation was taking a direction I wasn’t too thrilled with.
It was sometime around October of my first year of teaching, and apparently I hadn’t been doing the best job of keeping my class in line. I guess I knew I was struggling, but hearing it from the principal was still no fun. If I’m remembering correctly, I barely held it together until I made it to my car and the tears started falling.
Since then I have had many conversations with administration – some that consisted of kudos and congratulations – and others that featured a critique of the amount of homework I gave, my grading methods, or how I’d handled a particular situation.
But here’s the thing about those not-so-wonderful conversations: They result in the most growth.
We Can Choose to Either Be Upset or Grow
We teachers love to hear about how great of a job we’re doing or how wonderful our newest idea is. And it’s great when we get those kudos.
But it’s the tough, constructive-criticism conversations that catapult us to the next level of excellence.
If, that is, we accept them with the right attitude.
Too often we do just the opposite. We decide that our classroom is our domain, and we know what is best. So we allow our feelings to get hurt. We get defensive. We dig in our heels.
And we refuse to grow.
Now, yes, I know that sometimes administrators make bad suggestions and sometimes they don’t know what they’re talking about. But often they do have wisdom and advice that can make us better – even if the idea sounds horrible at first.
So the next time you’re faced with some constructive criticism, try to keep a few things in mind.
When You’re Facing Constructive Criticism….
- Be humble. Nothing will stop our growth faster than our own pride. Yes, it hurts to be told that we may need to change something or that we’re falling short in some area or another. But as much as we want to get defensive, we need to be humble. To stop and genuinely listen to what our administrator is saying. To be open to new ideas. And to realize that no matter how long we’ve been teaching or how many students and parents say that we are awesome, we can always be better.
- Realize there may be a better way than what you’re currently doing. Often when I’ve had these conversations with administration, it’s not that my way was necessarily wrong – there was just a better way. When I stopped trying to defend my way and started actually listening and looking for the better way, I realized that I was actually glad we’d had these conversations. No, they weren’t the most fun, but looking back now, I can see that my classroom was better because of them.
- Have an open-minded dialogue. We all know that administrators are not infallible. Sometimes their ideas aren’t the best and sometimes they don’t truly understand what’s going on in your classroom. But once again – the answer is not to get defensive and to shut out their suggestions. Instead, have an open-minded dialogue. Explain your point of view, but be genuinely open to new ideas and a new plan that you can develop together.
- Be excited about the growth process. We all (I hope) want to grow and be better teachers. But we need to embrace the fact that growth is often a bit painful. It can be tough to change lesson plans, teaching styles, or discipline methods. And it’s no fun to get a less-than-favorable evaluation or to hear all the ways you’re not doing a good job. But the sooner we embrace the growth process, the happier we will be and the faster we will grow. So the next time a growth opportunity (i.e. some negative feedback) comes along, recognize it for the growth opportunity that it is and do exactly the opposite of what you feel like – embrace it wholeheartedly.
what if you have a difficult administrator?
If you find yourself in a hostile work environment, I highly recommend joining up with Christian Educators Association, Intl. (CEAI)
CEAI provides legal advice, counsel, job action protection, and professional liability insurance for Christian teachers in public, private, and charter schools.
They are an excellent resource and will be in your corner when you need them. I particularly love that all of their advice and counsel is from a Biblical perspective - and they will even pray with you when you call to ask for help.
And you may also find this article helpful: How to Deal with a Difficult Administrator