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7 Easy Ways to Destroy Your Rapport with Your Students

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I know there are teachers out there who insist that having good rapport with your students is somehow important. They say that a good rapport can be the difference between a class that is out-of-control and one that respects and listens to you. Or that once you develop a good rapport with a student, you may be amazed how dedicated and loyal they become.

But I’m just not sure I believe them. I think a good rapport is extremely overrated. And furthermore, it just might be something you need to avoid at all cost.

To that end, I’ve provided you with 7 easy ways that you can destroy any rapport you might have built up with your students.

If you want to develop rapport with your students, don't do this :)

How to Destroy Your Rapport with Your Students

  1. Make sure you’re always right. If you want to frustrate your students, make sure you always insist you’re right, even when you’re wrong. And never apologize when you make a mistake or lose your temper.
  2. Cut off all avenues of appeal. Don’t let your students appeal any of your decisions. You are the teacher and the authority, so you’d better not let them question you. Ever.
  3. Never laugh (especially at yourself). If you want to be taken seriously, never smile. Never use humor. And, above all, never laugh at yourself.
  4. Turn in students for discipline without talking to them. If you really want to get a student mad at you, just turn in their name for a detention without saying anything to them. The look on their unsuspecting face when they receive the slip from the office will be priceless!
  5. Yell at your students. This is a great one. Next time your students are misbehaving, just scream at them and go off on a huge rant. That’s  a sure bet to kill your rapport in a heartbeat. Especially if you remember rule #1.
  6. Accuse a student when you kinda-sorta-probably know what happened. Okay, so next time you think Clara may have cheated, don’t wait until you’re more confident. Just accuse her right away. And make sure you’re very insistent that she did do it and isn’t going to get away with it! (And never ever take the advice found in this post here.)
  7. Put on a facade. This is the most powerful way to destroy your rapport, and while it might not make a big difference right away, stick with it and it will definitely pay off. All you’ve gotta’ do is pretend to be something you’re not. Or hold your students to different standards than you have for yourself.  Rapport-destroying gold!

And, above all, never ever waste your time on a training like Beyond Classroom Management. Just look at it! To think that strong relationships could actually lead your students to be respectful, responsible, and engaged? Ha! Ridiculous. <img class=

Original photo by Werner Kunz



Linda Kardamis

I believe that when God calls us to teach, He promises the strength & wisdom to do it well. All we need to do is keep learning, growing, and depending on Him. I'm here to provide practical advice and Biblical encouragement so you'll have the confidence and perspective to not only inspire your students but reach their hearts as well.

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Shannon - January 6, 2015

ha! love it 🙂 I know some parents who could use this mirror, as well…

Melody Sizemore - November 22, 2015

I really hope this post is tongue in cheek.

    Mrs. Robinson - January 9, 2016

    Yeah. I keep looking for The Onion logo.

Tdejarnette - December 30, 2015

Be defensive every time a parent asks a question.You want to make sure they understand that parents are adversaries and cooperation will not be an option.Students should be afraid of retaliation if parents try to get involved.

Joyce - December 30, 2015

If you want to be a super cool teacher, you should delve into your students’ personal business. When my niece was absent one day in middle school, the teacher was sure to tell her how another girl was flirting with her boyfriend. She also insisted that the two girls go out in the hall to “fight” it out. Twelve years later, she certainly was not invited to the couples wedding.

Anonymous - January 7, 2016

Use sarcasm.

Renita Demarest - March 12, 2016

Great advice, Beth. As ALWAYS I’m soooooooooo proud of you.

Renita Demarest - March 12, 2016

Great advice, Beth. As always, I’m so proud of you! Love you, mom.

Dawn. Noray - April 14, 2016

Looking forward to your ideas on how to manage my class more effectively.

Anonymous - March 12, 2018

Thanks for your wonderful topic

SUDI SUNGURA - October 13, 2018

ooh love it. and like it

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