What to Do With the Parent Who’s Driving You Crazy


I wrote recently about What to Do With the Kid Who’s Driving You Crazy, but what about the parent? You know the one I mean. The dad who thinks you have all the time in the world to give his student special treatment, the mom who can’t believe her little darling would ever deserve a detention, or the parents who just don’t seem to understand what you’re trying to do.

What to Do With the Parent Who's Driving You Crazy

We can easily get frustrated with parents who just don’t seem to be on the same page. And while there are a lot of techniques we can use to better communicate with parents, the real key is our attitude.

Wait, our attitude? What about the parents’ attitude?

Unfortunately, we can’t change the parents’ attitude. We can only change ourselves. But when we change the way we think, our interactions with them will change as well, and we have a much better chance of winning them over.

So what should you do with the parent who’s driving you crazy?

1. Remember parents are ultimately responsible for their children. We as teachers love our students and want what’s best for them. Sometimes we think we know what’s best for the student, but that doesn’t change the fact that the parent is primarily responsible for their child, not us. Yes, we play a huge and important role. But we shouldn’t try to usurp the parents’ authority. Instead, we should try to push responsibility back towards them, even if they don’t necessarily want it.

2. Be humble. When we have our gloves up and ready for a fight, a fight is most likely exactly what we’ll get. Contention and drama are always a result of pride (Prov 13:10), but humility is powerful. Humility disarms people. It opens doors of communication and understanding. So don’t assume that you are right and the parent is wrong. Instead, approach each conversation humbly seeking the best resolution.

3. Seek first to understand then to be understood. This principle from Steven Covey’s The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People is life-changing. When you have a conversation with a parent, start by genuinely listening to the parents’ concerns. Once you understand where the parent is coming from you’ll be better able to either explain your own reasoning or think of a better solution.

4.  Think win-win. Don’t view the situation as parent versus teacher. Instead, view it as a partnership. You both have the same goal – for the child to learn and grow and be as successful as possible. Draw from this common ground and search for creative solutions that will help you accomplish this shared goal.

5. Help the parents remember you’re on the same team. Once you start thinking win-win, you’ll want to help the parents think this way as well. When a disagreement arises, remind them that you both want what’s best for their child and that you just need to figure out how to make that happen. Tell them that you want to partner with them to find the best solution. Hopefully over time this will help the parents lower their own guard, and a genuine partnership will develop.

What challenges have you faced in dealing with parents? What other attitudes or strategies have you found helpful? Share your thoughts by leaving a comment.

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Linda Kardamis

I believe that when God calls us to teach, He promises the strength & wisdom to do it well. All we need to do is keep learning, growing, and depending on Him. I'm here to provide practical advice and Biblical encouragement so you'll have the confidence and perspective to not only inspire your students but reach their hearts as well.

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